You Don’t Understand

Dear fiance,

I have lived 12 long years at your "side" with 5 of those years being quite literally at your side. For this I am thankful, but when it comes to my womanhood you are so clueless and timid. This used to be adorable, but as we've both grown I've realized what an atrocity it was to men and women all around. At the slightest sign of my breasts being tender or my period being inconsistent or my pill being 30 minutes late, your mind instantly worries. " You're not pregnant are you?" is a phrase I so often must laugh or sigh and claim " No!" Too many times I have tried to explain that these things simply happen to a woman and that not all menstrual cycles, pms, and aging goes the same way! Different contraception methods, different feelings towards pads and tampons, and even differing feelings about intercourse for every woman during or after their periods can change so much! It's made me realize that sex education is lacking so horribly for the opposite sex. I've definitely had my fair share of utter confusion about the male body, but things I've learned in the past, or have had to learn over time by myself are so blind to you and have required so much explanation. You still don't understand, and that's okay, because honestly neither do I. It's time for my country to stop being such a prude about our bodies. Sex education should be for all sexes, and OF all sexes! This includes knowledge about what happens to our bodies over time. A period ( or lack-thereof) shouldn't be scary to a little girl, nor a woman, nor that woman's partner of a different sex!

Sincerely, a frustrated woman
Sex Education for all and of all!

Ashlee, USA